Introversion : Question and Answer

Let’s begin with a definition of an introvert that I found on urban dictionary which is quite befitting to my sensibilities.

Opposite of extrovert. A person who is energized by spending time alone. Often found in their homes, libraries, quiet parks that not many people know about, or other secluded places, introverts like to think and be alone.

Contrary to popular belief, not all introverts are shy. Some may have great social lives and love talking to their friends but just need some time to be alone to “recharge” afterward. The word “Introvert” has negative connotations that need to be destroyed. Introverts are simply misunderstood because the majority of the population consists of extroverts.

Extrovert: Oh my god, you’re so shy! You need to get out more!
Introvert: But it’s so draining – I don’t have a problem with going out; I just want to stay at home and read sometimes, y’know?Jesse is an introvert. He doesn’t mind staying home on a Friday night.
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How do I differentiate between an introvert & a depressed person?

Let’s understand this by asking one question.

Do you want to go out of your house this weekend?

There will be two kinds of replies.

  1. No, I don’t feel like going out, as a matter of fact getting out of my bed doesn’t make any sense. I just feel tired and want to lay on my bed and do nothing.
  2. No, I don’t really want to go outside, I feel I would enjoy being in my house by myself. Maybe I will read a new book or binge watch something or will cook for myself. I think it would be best if I relax this weekend in my house.

The first kind of reply is a depressed person’s view. As you can see clearly, an introvert finds comfort spending time alone while a depressed person wouldn’t find any comfort being alone.

How can an introvert turn into an extrovert?

Ok, so what you just described was rather just your transition from shyness into confidence and these traits are common in both an introvert as well as an extrovert.

People generally confuse a shy person for necessarily being an introvert and that is a grossly wrong assumption.

I am an introvert and knows many whom are quite confident during any form of social interaction.

In a nutshell, an introvert is someone who likes spending time alone and an extrovert is one who likes spending majority of their time with other people.

So shyness and confidence necessarily don’t define introversion and extroversion; they are just the emotional responses within ourselves.

So a shy person can turn into a confident person as opposed to an introvert turning into an extrovert.

What is the guide for an introvert to fit into a society that expects or forces introverts to be extroverts?

By being assertive.

Yes, the ability to say a clear and resounding ‘NO’ is a must-have for any introvert in their abilities inventory.

Just why should society dictate what an introvert should do?

Clearly, extroverts are not forced to be alone or are forcefully ostracised from their comfort zones, then why it is expected from an introvert to leave his/her comfort zone and mingle with other extroverts.

You asked for a guide to fit in a society, it’s pretty simple, be respectful and don’t be a dick to others. Now you might find variety of self-help book and other blogs helping you to be more social and talk to other people and well they just do one thing, they tell you that you need to change and thus kind of telling you that well you are not good enough but once follow these amazing rules, you might be able to fit in society perfectly.

Now, people have this weird notion that if a person is sitting alone— may be eating, reading or just sitting all by himself/herself, they must be so lonely or shy; well it isn’t the case, maybe they are more confident than you are, maybe they are just happy all by themselves, maybe you should mind your own business.

Please, society doesn’t make these introverts as your social projects where they needed to be trained so they can be more outgoing. The bottom line is that— the ones who have confidence issues or social anxieties would seek help accordingly and while the other bunch they just are comfortable in their own personal space; so do everyone a favour by not rubbing your opinions and your views on how one should live life on others because clearly they don’t point a finger at you and call you an overly dependent social douche-bag.

The only guide to fit in a society is to say ‘No’ to an exorbitant demand and by not being a dick to others, regardless whether you are an introvert or an extrovert.

How does an extroverted person feel about an introverted person?

I have many friends who will comfortably fall in the mentioned ‘extroverted’ category.

For them to comprehend my way of living is quite amusing.

During weekends, they all want to go far away from our campus — to a small day trip or even to a movie or just for any activity that would include a group of people doing something together.

When they hear my plan — they gasp incredulously!

‘How can you just be in your room during the weekend?’, they ask.

‘Well I go out twice a day to eat though, that counts as going out of the room.’

Now they look at me like I have committed some cardinal sin. They do invite me every time to join them and trying not to be rude to them, I join them 1 out of every 10 times they ask me.

To me their weekend plan seems absurd — why would you want to be in a crowd all day, when you can be at the comfort of your home watching a movie, reading a book or just doing anything that brings joy to you.

For an extrovert — an introvert is a peculiar creature and vice-versa.

Is it normal to become introverted in adulthood?

Yes, it is totally normal.

I feel that as you step into adulthood, you have exhausted all that energy that is required to go out and smile in a crowd.

As an adult, you have your work, then responsibilities and then any amount of free time that you get is a luxury.

Now, that luxurious free time would rather be spent on relaxing by yourself doing things that you want to do rather than jumping in a social jungle and exhausting yourself of fake pleasantries.

In a college, you had the time to explore and experience a thriving social life but as you step out from the college, you see that seriousness of life weigh up on you.

Adulthood makes you see the ones who are genuinely important to you and the ones who are not.

The sheer lack of time and desire to get out of your comfort zone is the shift towards introversion.

All answers were originally answered on Quora.


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